Anna became suspicious when her husband Ron started wearing an expensive-looking gold ID bracelet. It appeared on his wrist shortly after his birthday and he wore it all the time. When she asked Ron about it, he said he bought it for himself. But upon further questioning, Ron couldn't recall the name of the store he'd supposedly bought the bracelet from. Anna suggested they check the receipt, so he made a cursory search then claimed he must have thrown it away. One weekend while Anna was painting the apartment, she noticed he'd removed the ID bracelet. It didn't take her long to find it in the top drawer of his dresser. On the underside of the bracelet was an inscription that read "With all my love, Cindy."
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 If you suspect your partner of having an affair, there is usually some reasoning behind the suspicion, even if it is just a gut feeling that something is wrong. Based on our experiences, it is better not to confront a suspected cheat directly unless you have some proof: if your suspicion is unfounded, this scenario can build distrust; if there is something to hide; chances are the suspicious party will lie, and then try harder to hide their mischievous ways! But that doesn't mean you can't ask indirectly; there could well be a reasonable answer to your questions.
Gifts Cost Money
With no self-respect cheaters will attempt to impress the lover with a cheap token of their affection. He'll spend whatever amount he/she deems necessary to buy a decent gift. The more impressive the present, the more money it will cost. And you can usually find evidence of his spending somewhere.
How to Find the Paper Trail
If your husband or wife does not pay cash for his lover's gifts, they'll pay by check or use a credit card. Whatever method they choose, there is usually paper trail. Check the bank statements, if you have access to them. Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Are there any canceled checks for large amounts made out to "cash"? Take a really close look at the time period shortly before or after Christmas or Valentine's Day.
Closely examine each of your husband's or wife's ATM withdrawal slips. Are there any large, unexplained ATM withdrawals? Read the information on each ATM slip. Is there anything unusual about the time, place or amount of the withdrawals?
Pay close attention to their credit card bills. Especially those holiday months like, December, January and February when Hanukah & Christmas or Valentine's Day charges are likely to show up. Any unusual charges made at jewelry stores, specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants etc. could be evidence of gifts bought for his lover.
What about actual charge slips or store receipts? They tend to be careless about these things. Check in their wallet, their pockets, backpack, briefcase and desk or dresser drawers. If you find evidence of gift items you didn't personally receive, that should raise a red flag in your mind. If your husband or wife didn't give these gifts to you, who did they gave them to?
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How to catch a cheat 
